How To Plan A Wedding That Feels Like You

Pinterest is a beautiful place full of champagne towers, golden hour portraits, and very neutral linens. And while there’s nothing wrong with getting inspired by aesthetics, there’s something deeper that often gets lost in the scroll:

Your actual story. Your actual love. Your actual people.

If you’re craving a wedding that feels like you, not just what a styled shoot told you to want, this blog’s for you. Here’s how to intentionally plan a wedding that reflects your relationship — from the first decision to the last dance.

1. Start With You Two, Not a Color Palette

Before booking anything, pause and ask:

“What does a meaningful day together feel like?”

Talk to your partner about:

•Your favorite date memories

•What you want your day to feel like (fun, intimate, joyful, peaceful?)

•The kinds of moments you want to remember 10 years from now

This isn’t about narrowing things down yet — it’s about getting clear on what matters to you. Because decisions are easier when you’re anchored in your why.

2. Make Space for Your Shared Values

Are you two big on family? Foodies? Nature lovers? Introverts who want a chill, slow morning and a campfire night? Use those values to shape your day.

Some ideas:

•Value: Time with loved ones → plan a welcome dinner or day-after brunch

•Value: Meaning over tradition → write your own vows, skip the bouquet toss, have a friend officiate

•Value: Connection to place → choose a venue that’s tied to a memory (first trip, home state, favorite hike)

You don’t have to do what everyone else does — just what feels good for you.

3. Let Go of “Should”

It’s your wedding. There are no rules.

You don’t have to:

•Wear white

•Have a bridal party

•Cut a cake

•Dance in front of everyone

•Invite every person your parents suggest

If a tradition feels fun or meaningful — go for it. But if it feels forced, skip it. There’s no gold star for doing things the “right” way. The right way is your way.

4. Think About What You Want to Remember

Fast forward to the morning after your wedding. What do you want to feel when you look back?

Do you want to remember how hard you laughed during your first look? The quiet moment with your dad before the ceremony? The spontaneous dance circle that broke out when your song came on?

Let those memories guide your timeline. Build in space for real connection. And choose a photographer who’s going to document the feeling, not just the poses.

(Hi. That’s me.)

5. Infuse Personality Into the Details

If you love design, amazing. Go wild. But don’t forget — personal details > perfect ones.

Consider:

•Naming tables after favorite places or inside jokes

•Including a reading or quote from your favorite book/movie

•Wearing heirloom jewelry or accessories

•Bringing your dog, your favorite records, or even your late-night snack faves into the mix

None of it has to be expensive or aesthetic. It just has to be you.

6. Hire Vendors Who Care About Your Story

When you work with vendors who care about you, not just the event, the entire experience changes. They’ll advocate for your values. They’ll help you craft a day that breathes. They’ll take the time to know you — and in doing so, they’ll capture the things that matter most.

Find people you can laugh with. Cry with. Trust.

(And maybe even grab a beer with after your timeline is done.)

Your relationship is unique. Your wedding should be too.

When you plan from the inside out — story first, vibes second — the result isn’t just a beautiful day. It’s a meaningful one, and you deserve to remember it that way.

Need someone to help document your day in a way that actually feels like you?

Let’s talk. No pressure. Just real conversation and connection — the same way your wedding day should feel.